Couples often come to therapy feeling distant, defensive, and unsure what comes next.
You love each other, or at least you used to, but lately it feels like every conversation turns into a fight. You promised yourselves it wouldn’t get like this. Maybe you’re reeling from infidelity, sitting on the edge of divorce, or simply wondering if repair is even possible.
You’ve built a life together with kids and a home but now, even small interactions feel insurmountable. The same arguments keep circling back, and no matter how hard you both try, you end up in the same stuck place. You’re tired of walking on eggshells and tired of being misunderstood.
You’ve already tried so much
Most couples don’t come to therapy because they haven’t tried. They come because effort alone hasn’t changed the relationship. Conversations, books, and good intentions can’t undo patterns shaped by chronic stress, cultural conditioning, emotional labor, and unspoken expectations. My work focuses on identifying those patterns and creating structure, shared responsibility, and emotional safety so change can actually last.
You’ve done the date nights and the long talks. You’ve promised to listen better, stay calm, and be kinder. But under pressure, everything collapses back into the same arguments, shutdowns, and misunderstandings, leaving you frustrated and unsure whether anything can truly change.
You’re not looking for quick advice or someone to take sides. You want to understand what keeps pulling you apart and whether there is a real path forward. You’re looking for clarity, structure, and support to repair what’s been broken, or to move on with honesty and respect if repair is no longer possible.
The Three Pillars of My Couples Therapy Approach
Informed by the Gottman Method
Culture and conditioning shape our relationships more than we realize.
None of us enter relationships as blank slates. We bring inherited beliefs about gender, roles, conflict, caregiving, success, and worth. These invisible scripts influence who carries the emotional load, how power is negotiated, and what each partner believes is “normal” or “fair.” Until these forces are named, couples often end up fighting each other instead of the system they’re both living inside.
Modern life is producing chronic disconnection and loneliness.
Today’s relationships are asked to do more than ever before—provide emotional fulfillment, stability, intimacy, meaning, and partnership—while couples are stretched thin by work, parenting, technology, and constant stress. Over time, this erosion creates loneliness even inside committed relationships. This isn’t a personal failure; it’s a structural one.
Reconnection doesn’t happen through blame. It happens through a same-team lens.
Blame creates defensiveness. Defensiveness blocks repair. Real change begins when couples stop asking “Who’s at fault?” and start asking “What are we up against together?” My work helps partners move out of adversarial dynamics and into shared responsibility, where safety, accountability, and repair become possible again.
Most couples don’t end up here because they failed. They end up here because modern life slowly erodes connection through chronic stress, competing demands, and emotional overload. This erosion often leaves couples blaming each other for dynamics that are largely shaped by the culture and systems surrounding them. Over time, that erosion can leave two people feeling far apart from each other.
You may still love each other, but closeness feels harder to access. The intimacy you once shared feels distant, and even small attempts to connect can carry tension instead of ease.
This doesn’t happen in isolation. We live in a culture that celebrates independence but offers little guidance on interdependence. Couples are told that good relationships take work, without being taught what kind of work actually builds safety and trust. Instead, many partners get stuck in predictable cycles of defensiveness, withdrawal, or resentment, both trying to protect themselves while longing for connection.
Our work together focuses on interrupting these patterns and restructuring how you relate—so the relationship becomes a place of safety instead of blame, and partnership instead of opposition.
Finding Your Way Back to Each Other
We’d Be a Good Fit if
Conflict escalates quickly or ends in shutdown and silence.
You’ve lost trust after betrayal or broken promises.
You’re questioning whether to stay or go.
You want communication that brings safety instead of tension.
You long to feel seen, valued, and on the same team again.
You need assistance redefining your relationship.
What our work together might look like
The methods I use are not about quick fixes or communication scripts. They’re tools to support deeper work: naming conditioning, reducing loneliness, and helping couples come back onto the same team.
Gottman Therapy
I am trained as a Level 2 Gottman Method Therapist, and I use this research-based approach to help partners rebuild trust, strengthen friendship, and create shared meaning. The Gottman Method is built around the Sound Relationship House, emphasizing trust, commitment, and emotional connection. Through structured conversations and practical tools, you’ll learn to communicate more effectively, repair after conflict, and cultivate a relationship that feels both secure and alive.
Fair Play Method
I integrate principles from the Fair Play Method to address the invisible labor that often strains relationships. Together, we’ll explore the difference between equality and equity and work toward creating a partnership at home that feels balanced, respectful, and truly shared.
Parenting and Family Issues
Parenting is inherently hard. In our work, we’ll explore ways to raise emotionally intelligent, resilient kids while also tending to your own well-being and partnership. Drawing from concepts of conscious parenting and relational attunement, we’ll build a family culture grounded in respect, repair, and connection.
Affair Recovery
Recovering from infidelity is one of the most painful and complex processes a couple can face. Using the Gottman Method’s clear, research-based framework, I help partners process betrayal, repair emotional wounds, and gradually restore trust and safety. Together, we’ll rebuild a foundation where connection can grow again.
Pre and Post Divorce Counseling
Whether you’re contemplating separation or navigating life after divorce, our work can help you move through this transition with clarity and self-respect. We’ll focus on understanding what led here, find steadiness in uncertainty, and learn how to relate to each other with compassion throughout the process.
Non-Traditional Relationships/Arrangements
Relationships come in many forms. I offer an affirming space for partners exploring open, polyamorous, parenting marriages, or otherwise non-traditional structures. Our work will emphasize communication, boundaries, and alignment, helping you design relationship agreements that feel intentional, respectful, and true to your values.
I help couples step out of survival mode and into intentional partnership
Make the first move toward positive change
1 Book a call Use my online scheduler to find a time that fits your schedule. If you’re reaching out for couples therapy, either partner or both are welcome to join the call.
2 We’ll chat We'll have a FREE 15-minute chat to see if we're a good fit for each other.
3 Schedule your first session If we're a match, I’ll book your session and send you onboarding info.
Schedule a complimentary 15 minute phone consultation