You didn’t plan to end up here: distant, defensive, and unsure what’s next
You love each other, or at least you used to, but lately it feels like every conversation turns into a fight. You promised yourselves it wouldn’t get like this. Maybe you’re reeling from infidelity, sitting on the edge of divorce, or simply wondering if repair is even possible.
You’ve built a life together with kids and a home but now, even small interactions feel insurmountable. The same arguments keep circling back, and no matter how hard you both try, you end up in the same stuck place. You’re tired of walking on eggshells, tired of being misunderstood, and wondering if things will ever feel good again.
You’ve already tried so much
You’ve done the date nights, read the books, and made new rules. You’ve had the marathon talks, promised to listen better, to stay calm, to be kind. And yet, under stress, it all unravels.
You want to understand what keeps pulling you apart and learn how to find your way back, if that’s still possible. You’re not looking for quick advice or someone to take sides; you’re looking for structure, clarity, and a chance to repair what’s been broken or to end things with grace if that’s what’s needed.
We’d Be a Good Fit if
Conflict escalates quickly or ends in shutdown and silence.
You’ve lost trust after betrayal or broken promises.
You’re questioning whether to stay or go.
You want communication that brings safety instead of tension.
You long to feel seen, valued, and on the same team again.
You need assistance redefining your relationship.
Finding Your Way Back to Each Other
So many couples come to my therapy room disconnected from each other and from the version of their relationship they once knew. You might still love each other, but it is hard to feel close. You miss the intimacy you used to share, and now even small attempts to connect with each other feel tense.
We live in a culture that celebrates independence but rarely teaches interdependence. You are told that good relationships take work, but no one explains what kind of work actually builds safety and trust. Instead, you end up caught in patterns of defensiveness, withdrawal, or resentment, two people trying to find connection while feeling increasingly alone.
Together we will help you find your way back to each other. This is not therapy that takes sides or tells you who is right or wrong. It is structured and compassionate work that helps you communicate honestly and reconnect using evidenced based models of care.
This is about remembering that love is not something you either have or do not. It’s something you continually create together with intention and presence.
What our work together might look like
Gottman Therapy
I am trained as a Level 2 Gottman Method Therapist, and I use this research-based approach to help partners rebuild trust, strengthen friendship, and create shared meaning. The Gottman Method is built around the Sound Relationship House, emphasizing trust, commitment, and emotional connection. Through structured conversations and practical tools, you’ll learn to communicate more effectively, repair after conflict, and cultivate a relationship that feels both secure and alive.
Fair Play Method
I integrate principles from the Fair Play Method to address the invisible labor that often strains relationships. Together, we’ll explore the difference between equality and equity and work toward creating a partnership at home that feels balanced, respectful, and truly shared.
Parenting and Family Issues
Parenting is inherently hard. In our work, we’ll explore ways to raise emotionally intelligent, resilient kids while also tending to your own well-being and partnership. Drawing from concepts of conscious parenting and relational attunement, we’ll build a family culture grounded in respect, repair, and connection.
Affair Recovery
Recovering from infidelity is one of the most painful and complex processes a couple can face. Using the Gottman Method’s clear, research-based framework, I help partners process betrayal, repair emotional wounds, and gradually restore trust and safety. Together, we’ll rebuild a foundation where connection can grow again.
Pre and Post Divorce Counseling
Whether you’re contemplating separation or navigating life after divorce, our work can help you move through this transition with clarity and self-respect. We’ll focus on understanding what led here, find steadiness in uncertainty, and learn how to relate to each other with compassion throughout the process.
Non-Traditional Relationships/Arrangements
Relationships come in many forms. I offer an affirming space for partners exploring open, polyamorous, parenting marriages, or otherwise non-traditional structures. Our work will emphasize communication, boundaries, and alignment, helping you design relationship agreements that feel intentional, respectful, and true to your values.
Make the first move toward positive change
1 Book a call Use my online scheduler to find a time that fits your schedule. If you’re reaching out for couples therapy, either partner or both are welcome to join the call.
2 We’ll chat We'll have a FREE 15-minute chat to see if we're a good fit for each other.
3 Schedule your first session If we're a match, I’ll book your session and send you onboarding info.
Schedule a complimentary 15 minute phone consultation