For the Woman Who Wonders Where She Went

Have you ever asked yourself how you started losing yourself and why anyone ever expected you to?

Women do not simply “drift away.”
They are pulled away.

Pulled by family history.
Pulled by cultural norms.
Pulled by gender expectations.
Pulled by a society that praises women most when they minimize themselves.

Somewhere along the way, self-sacrifice became the gold star.

The Disappearing Act Isn’t Accidental

Women are statistically more likely to carry the cognitive household labor even while working full time. This invisible load includes childcare planning, emotional caregiving, conflict management, social coordination, appointment tracking, and the relational tending that keeps families afloat.

As a therapist for women and couples, I cannot ignore this data.
It would be unethical to suggest that relationship struggles live solely within communication techniques or emotional skill-building when the structure of many families itself is imbalanced.

Until the burden of invisible labor changes, marriages will remain strained, and countless women will continue breaking internally while appearing functional externally.

And let’s be clear: the imbalance does not only harm women.

Men suffer too.
Uneven labor breeds resentment, emotional withdrawal, loss of desire, and chronic disconnection. Sex becomes infrequent. Affection becomes logistical. Partners become co-managers rather than lovers.

An unequal family system crushes everyone inside it.

Women deserve better.
Men deserve better.
And our children deserve a healthier template for partnership than the one many of us inherited.

You Deserve a Return to Yourself

You deserve a return to the woman you were before the expectations, the obligations, the mental load.

If you are curious about how to begin that return, stay with me.